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ELEGY XIX

TO A MAN WITH WHOSE WIFE HE WAS IN LOVE.

FOOL, if you don't want to keep an eye on your wife for your own sake, at least do so for mine, that it may whet my desire for her. What we can have for the asking we never want; to forbid a thing adds ardour to our longing.

He must have a heart like iron, who loves a woman he is free to love. As for us, who are versed in the art, we must have our hopes and fears, and we must have a few rebuffs to give zest to our appetite.

I don't want to hear about the happiness that never deceives. None of your steady-going, placid loves for me. My mistress must have something of the devil in her. That's a weakness of mine, and that, Corinna, cunning little minx, knew perfectly well. She knew only too thoroughly how to take me in her snare. How often, alas, have I known her, the lying jade, to say she had a dreadful headache, so as to keep me at arm's length, and how many times have I, despite the pangs it cost me, ruefully taken my departure. How many a time has she upbraided me, playing the injured innocent, when all the time it was she herself that was at fault. And when she had sufficiently tormented me, when she had revived the dying embers of my passion, she would relent and pander to my longings. How she would twine her arms about

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me, what loving words she'd lavish on me. How she would smother me with kisses, and, oh, ye gods, what luscious ones they were!

And thou, who just now charmed my vision, do thou too be cunning; turn often. a deaf ear to my entreaties; suffer me) lying at thy door, to endure the biting cold of a long winter's night. ’Tis the only way to make my love endure. ’Tis that that's needed, ’tis that that adds fuel to my passion. I

For me a plain straightforward love-affair's devoid of savour. ’Tis like a dish with two much sugar in it. My gorge doth rise at it. If Danaë within a brazen tower had never been immured, Jupiter would ne'er have made her great with child. Juno, by setting strict watch on Io with her horned brow, made her, in Jupiter's regard, more precious than before.

He who desires the safe and easy way, let him go pluck the leaves of the trees and drink of the open river. Ah, my dears, if you would keep your hold upon your lovers, learn to misuse them oft. Alas! And must I give you lessons to my own undoing. It matters not. Let him who will, love the pattern woman who will always do as she's told; I can't abide her. I flee who chases me, and chase who flees me.

Now, you, good sir, who think your wife so very safe; from this day forth bolt up your door at night-fall; ask who it is that comes so often and taps so cautiously; what makes your dogs bark at the dead of night; what notes are those with which that servant girl so slyly comes and goes; ask why your fair one wants so often to have her bed to herself. Let these gnawing fears at length invade the marrow of your bones, and thus compel me to use some stratagem.

He's only fit to pilfer the sand of the lonely shore who can love the wife of a complacent fool. I give you solemn warning, if you don't keep watch upon your wife, she soon will cease to be my mistress. I have been a long-suffering

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individual. I hoped the day would come when your jealous watch would put me on my mettle. But you don't bestir yourself at all. You bear what never husband in the world should bear. Well, ’tis I myself will put an end to this too facile love.

Oh, luckless that I am! Will you never shut your door against me? Shall I never have, o' nights, to risk your vengeance? Shall I never have anything to fear from you? Will never the gasping intake of the breath disturb my sleep? You'll ne'er do aught would make me wish you dead. Do I, of all men, want an easy-going husband, a husband who would prostitute his wife? You poison my pleasure by your feeble acquiescence. Why don't you look for someone to whom such meekness would be welcome? If you wish that I should be your rival, then swear your rival I shall never be.

 

Si tibi non opus est servata, stulte, puella,
    at mihi fac serves, quo magis ipse velim!
quod licet, ingratum est; quod non licet acrius urit.
    ferreus est, siquis, quod sinit alter, amat
speremus pariter, pariter metuamus amantes,
    et faciat voto rara repulsa locum.
quo mihi fortunam, quae numquam fallere curet?
    nil ego, quod nullo tempore laedat, amo!
Viderat hoc in me vitium versuta Corinna,
    quaque capi possem, callida norat opem.
a, quotiens sani capitis mentita dolores
    cunctantem tardo iussit abire pede!
a, quotiens finxit culpam, quantumque licebat
    insonti, speciem praebuit esse nocens!
sic ubi vexarat tepidosque refoverat ignis,
    rursus erat votis comis et apta meis.
quas mihi blanditias, quam dulcia verba parabat
    oscula, di magni, qualia quotque dabat!
Tu quoque, quae nostros rapuisti nuper ocellos,
    saepe time simulans, saepe rogata nega;
et sine me ante tuos proiectum in limine postis
    longa pruinosa frigora nocte pati.
sic mihi durat amor longosque adolescit in annos;
    hoc iuvat; haec animi sunt alimenta mei.
pinguis amor nimiumque patens in taedia nobis
    vertitur et, stomacho dulcis ut esca, nocet.
si numquam Danaen habuisset aenea turris,
    non esset Danae de Iove facta parens;
dum servat Iuno mutatam cornibus Io,
    facta est, quam fuerat, gratior illa Iovi.
quod licet et facile est quisquis cupit, arbore frondis
    carpat et e magno flumine potet aquam.
siqua volet regnare diu, deludat amantem.
    ei mihi, ne monitis torquear ipse meis!
quidlibet eveniat, nocet indulgentia nobis--
    quod sequitur, fugio; quod fugit, ipse sequor.
At tu, formosae nimium secure puellae,
    incipe iam prima claudere nocte forem.
incipe, quis totiens furtim tua limina pulset,
    quaerere, quid latrent nocte silente canes,
quas ferat et referat sollers ancilla tabellas,
    cur totiens vacuo secubet ipsa toro.
mordeat ista tuas aliquando cura medullas,
    daque locum nostris materiamque dolis.
ille potest vacuo furari litore harenas,
    uxorem stulti siquis amare potest.
iamque ego praemoneo: nisi tu servare puellam
    incipis, incipiet desinere esse mea!
multa diuque tuli; speravi saepe futurum,
    cum bene servasses, ut bene verba darem.
lentus es et pateris nulli patienda marito;
    at mihi concessi finis amoris erit!
Scilicet infelix numquam prohibebor adire?
    nox mihi sub nullo vindice semper erit?
nil metuam? per nulla traham suspiria somnos?
    nil facies, cur te iure perisse velim?
quid mihi cum facili, quid cum lenone marito?
    corrumpit vitio gaudia nostra suo.
quin alium, quem tanta iuvat patientia, quaeris?
    me tibi rivalem si iuvat esse, veta!

 


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